Benjamin Disraeli is known to have said "The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own."
How can you apply this thought to your life?
- When you encounter another person on the phone, in person or over the Internet, where is your typical focus? Are you thinking about yourself, or are you thinking about the other person? Do you approach this person from a place of taking or of giving? Does it occur to you to notice something of value about that person and tell them so? Or to let that person know they are important to you and one of the reasons why?
- When you have ended your encounter with that person and moved on to the next thing in your life, how do you suppose that person you just left is feeling? Are they smiling, sad, indifferent, uplifted, dejected? Why does it matter how that person feels from your encounter?
- When you say something nice to someone and experience their reaction, how does that make you feel?
Imagine the boost you can give to people with a few simple words. Imagine how the good feeling you give them spreads out into the world. When you say something to someone that lifts them up, gives them evidence of their worth, their importance, that is a gift you are giving yourself. The most amazing thing about giving is that it rewards the giver with a "lightness of being." It lifts the giver up!
Try this experiment.
1. When you encounter a stranger, open yourself up, feel a smile and then give them your smile with a friendly greeting. As H. Jackson Brown, Jr. said, "Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine he sees all day."
2. Practice looking for something to appreciate about the people around you and with whom you come into contact – friends, family, strangers, co-workers or acquaintances. Then tell them! Tell them what you appreciate about them. It doesn't have to be an elaborate dissertation, just a few words that remind them of how wonderful they are.
3. Then check in with yourself and see how you feel after the encounter. Are you smiling? Do you feel a smile? Do you feel good? Is there really something to this notion?
You may be delighted to find that a simple act of kindness…simply feels good!
Here's to your kind spirit showing itself, enriching the lives of those around you, as your spirit glows.