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  • The Gray Areas of Life

By Linda Mitchell

Everyone remembers that first gray hair.

Most likely, you probably pulled that first gray hair, and then the next and the next until you either knew you would go bald, or resolved to make a lifetime effort to hide those roots for good. After all, only your hairstylist knows for sure.

After thirty some years, I am ready to let go of the chemicals that have hidden the signs of aging. In our youth we can't wait to be a teenager, sweet sixteen, old enough to drive, a young adult. Then it hits you – you’re thirty and your biological clock starts ticking! You then do everything you can to maintain your youth and, at some point, you are forever thirty-nine.

Trying to rush time or slow it down keeps you living in the future or the past. Living in this very moment can feel very gray because there is no drama in the present moment for there is no past or future, only now. Like many others, I have done my fair share of being stuck in the past, and at times daydreaming of the future. Neither one could have kept me happy for long, as the now is the only place that can feel like heaven on earth.

Bruce Lee was a highly evolved human being who was widely regarded as the most influential martial artist of the twentieth century. He believed that the individual was more important than any organization and system.

Bruce Lee states, "Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.

Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend."

According to Psychology Today, "Type A individuals (also known as the coronary-prone behavior pattern) are individuals who are hard-driving, competitive, and try to overachieve. Type B individuals are laid-back, never rush, and tend to take things easy. While Type As are focused on competing and attaining measurable goals, Type Bs are more about living in the moment."

Type B can be achievers, but will not be as competitive as Type A. They will get the task done on their time, and tend to be procrastinators contrary to Type A personalities.

Whichever type personality you fall into, and you could have combined traits of either / or, you can change those parts of yourself that cause you stress, or no longer is fitting for you. Meditation is one way to create permanent change through visualizing the change you desire. However, this needs to be done consistently over time, as change does not generally happen automatically without some effort on your part.

Living naturally is fun and healthy. Aging is part of living. Gray hairs are a part of aging. Whether you are a blond, brunette, redhead or have earned those grays, we all just want to have fun!

"In my teens I saw the world in only black and white. Now I know that most things exist in a certain gray area. Though it took a while to get here, I now call this gray area home. I once believed that participating in a capitalist economy would be the death of me, but now realize that agonizing over the political implications of every move I make isn’t exactly living. -Sophia Amoruso

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